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It’s a very simple premise: we instinctively like people who make us feel good.The better they make us feel, the more we like them.
I enjoy bantering as a means of flirting because it meshes with my personality and it’s a method of screening for the type of women I am most attracted to.
It’s known as the Reward Theory of Attraction – we are attracted to people whose presence or behavior makes us feel appreciated and liked.
When the feeling of pleasure at a person’s involvement in our lives outweighs the costs (someone who’s fun to hang around with but who causes problems through his behavior, for example) then we tend to be drawn towards that relationship over others.
Who knew that one day you could turn it around and use those same skills as a part of a way of getting dates?
However, as much as making people feel good makes them like us, there’s more to it.
The brain increases dopamine and norepinephirine, which regulates the brain’s pleasure and reward centers.
We associate the pleasure with the person and thus want to spend more time in their presence.
I get a charge from sharp women who enjoy that sort of witty duel-by-wordplay.
When done properly, it’s a game of verbal sparring back and forth, matching wits and humor with gentle ribbing and sexually charged teasing…
They knew how to make people They were genuine interesting people with stories to share and a genuine interest in getting to know the people they talked to. I began to see just how integral being was to a successful dating life…
and I started to understand how to integrate it into my approach towards women.
Fun people are interesting – they tend to have diverse interests that they enjoy and have stories to share.